When enough is enough, there has to be a breakup. You’ve given your partner another chance or two and they still blew it. It is never easy or enjoyable and it is always going to cause some pain, even to you. The things that attracted you to your partner just aren’t enough anymore and you have to move on to carry on with your life. Whether you both grew apart or ended up disagreeing over a core belief, cheated on each other or any other reason for a relationship to fall apart, you need to know how to break up with your partner.
When you choose to break up with your partner, where you do it and how you do it is of utmost importance. You’ll often not be in a good place to break up but you will know that you have to do it sooner rather than later.
The problem arises when you break up with your partner in the wrong place.
This problem is what they will recall about you, making it impossible to maintain a good friendship with them due to the way that you treated them at the breakup.
If you are looking for the right place to make a break up happen, make sure that you don’t do it at your own home. A lot of people think that if they bring their partners to their house to break up, that everything will be all right in the end.Breaking up with your partner in the comforts of your own home isn’t a good idea because if they start to take things the wrong way and get angry, you have no way of leaving so that they can get a hold of their feelings for themselves. In addition to this, they could damage your house or possessions and will feel cornered. Giving your partner control over you when you are breaking up with them just isn’t a good idea.
Amongst the same lines, breaking up with someone on a bus/train/plane is a bad idea for many of the same reasons. You can’t leave until you are at your destination and there is absolutely no privacy here. It is dangerous to have shouting, emotionally charged people on public transport.
One of the worst ways I can think of to break up with someone is when you are on holiday or at some kind of event. You’ve travelled hundreds if not thousands of miles for this and then one of you decides that it is time to finish your relationship. If you’ve travelled to a festival, you have to spend your breakup surrounded by happy, drunken people and you are likely to make some mistakes that you wouldn’t if you were sober. The money wasted by ruining a perfectly good holiday can’t be recovered and sharing your accommodation with your partner won’t be the most enticing proposition.
In addition to this, you partner might decide that they are just going to leave and get as far away as possible from you. Whilst this is fine when you are in your native country, many people get lost and if you are in a dangerous country, there can be severe consequences to walking off the beaten path. Just wait until you get back to your own country to make the breakup happen. You’ll enjoy the holiday more and as a bonus, you get to have fun on your holiday.
Breaking up in the presence of other people is also a pretty bad idea. If you know the people that are around, they will often take sides and argue with each other, which means you’ll be ruining more than one relationship. If you don’t know the people around you, you’ll embarrass your partner in public. Neither of these things are a good idea for a good breakup.
I shouldn’t have to mention this, but make sure you break up with your partner in real life, rather than via a text message/phone call/e-mail. Each of these shows utter disrespect for the time you spent with your partner and it also means you’ll make them angry. If you can’t possibly meet them in real life that is they only time you should instigate a breakup via digital means.
The best place to break up with your partner can be difficult to find. Finding a neutral place to meet, which doesn’t have many other people milling around is perfect. Meeting in a quiet café where you can go upstairs or downstairs away from other people can work and so can an empty park. Break ups are very personal and to make sure that you have a good one, spend a little time trying to find the best place to break up with your partner.